New Castle News

September 12, 2013

Tim Kolodziej: Yes, you COULD have been — but you really didn’t want to

Tim Kolodziej
New Castle News

NEW CASTLE — I could have been ...

What?

A better student?

A better athlete?

An author?

A pilot?

A singer?

What?

You could have been ...

What?

Remarkable?

You still can be.

Right where you are.

Today.



“We manage ourselves each day to be and to do what really matters most.” — Stephen R. Covey



I could have been ...

What?

A star football player?

No, you couldn’t. You really didn’t want to be.

It’s over now. Deal with it and move on.

You chose lazy instead. You chose TV instead. You chose hangin’ on the corner with your buddies and drinkin’ 40s.

“My coach didn’t like me.”

Yeah, yeah. I get it.

You know what’s crazy? Today I’m going to agree with you. I will go out on the limb and say your coach didn’t like your attitude. Your coach didn’t like your work ethic. Your coach didn’t like the fact that you often showed up late for practice. And remember all those times during the summer when you slept in instead of attending team workouts? I bet he didn’t like that either.

So, if that’s YOU — if you’re the one with a bad attitude who doesn’t work hard and isn’t committed to the team — I can’t blame the guy for not liking you.

I wouldn’t like you either.

But don’t keep walking with that crutch at age 37. Yes, you could have been a terrific football player.

You just chose not to be. You chose other things instead. It’s that simple.

Yet if you woke up this morning, you can still choose to be remarkable.

Right where you are.

Today.



“Every human being is intended to have a character of his own — to be what no others are, and to do what no other can.” — William E. Channing



I could have been ...

What?

The supervisor in your office?

No, you couldn’t. You really didn’t want to be.

It’s over now. Deal with it and move on.

You chose comfort instead. You chose to play games on the Internet and sneak in nine holes of golf when you were supposed to be selling. Whenever the president asked you to take on a bit more responsibility, you always had an excuse.

You still do.

“My boss just picked her ‘favorite’ to run the office. He’s such a brown-noser. Comes in early and stays late. Always gets his work in on time. Treats customers well on the phone.

“I think it’s all an act and I see right through it. He’s really got the boss fooled, but not me. I ain’t buyin’ it.”

Really? You really gonna play that card?

C’mon, man! You CHOSE where you are today. Every action — and in a lot of cases, inaction — over the past 20 years has led to Sept. 12, 2013.

Maybe you aren’t where you WANT to be today. But you’re definitely where you’ve CHOSEN to be.

Yet if you woke up this morning, you can still choose to be remarkable.

Right where you are.

Today.



“God has epic, future accomplishments with your name written on them. Go get them.” — Derwin Gray



I can be ...

Remarkable?

Yes, you can. So can I.

You are uniquely gifted. So am I.

If you have a job, you are in a position to help others. So am I.

If you don’t have a job, your options for helping others today aren’t limited to an office or a school. You can find someone to serve anywhere in the community.

When you’re smiling, you’re remarkable.

When you’re serving, you’re remarkable.

When you’re encouraging, you’re remarkable.

And who doesn’t want to be remarkable?

You can be a remarkable car salesman. A remarkable teacher. A remarkable road worker. A remarkable stay-at-home mom. A remarkable volunteer coach.

Yes, you could have been ...

Sadly, I could have been, too.

It’s over now. Let’s deal with it and move on.

Instead of dwelling on the past, let’s choose better, not bitter.

Today.

Right where we are.

And that, my friends, is the first step to remarkable.

Unless, of course, you choose not to be.

(Tim Kolodziej is executive editor at The News. To follow him on Twitter , CLICK HERE.)