NEW CASTLE —
If you don’t have a target, how will you know if you hit it?
Don’t even get Jones started on this topic.
“If society’s best parents — the most loving, the most determined, the most concerned parents — are all raising their children by setting their sights on a target called ‘doing the best we can,’ is anyone aiming at the same thing?” Jones asks.
“I think most parents are probably doing the best they can. But what IS that exactly? What guideline has society settled upon as the best method for bringing up kids? What do today’s parents agree is the gold standard for raising children? Any clue?”
Jones poses another question: what results do you want with your children 10 or 15 years from now?
“When you inspect the fruit of the tree you have planted and fertilized and watered for years, what fruit do you want to see?”
Perhaps, he suggests, parents can actually make a list, just like businesses and teams do.
Makes perfect sense, doesn’t it? An end result must be determined before an effective process can take us there.
“Once that process is in place, one has only to adhere to the process — those daily steps — that lead inevitably to the final result,” Jones notes.
This, in essence, is how a culture is created — whether at home, at school in the workplace or in the locker room.
So unlike our world today.
“In order to produce results that are wildly outside the average — to produce results that are extraordinary — you cannot afford to think like average people think. You cannot act like average people act. You cannot be what average people are ... which is normal.”
Just a regular guy or gal.
We desperately desire to fit in. To be part of the crowd. To be “one of the group.”
There’s a certain level of comfort in numbers. It’s good to connect over foods, TV shows and sporting events.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with it.
But if that’s you, stop telling me “there’s got to be something more to life.” Stop telling me you want to “make a difference.” Stop telling me you want to do “something special.”
Stop telling me ... and just DO IT already!
If that’s you, no one is holding you back — but you.
“If you are doing what everyone else is doing, you are doing something wrong,” Jones stresses. “Why? Because most people are not obtaining results that are considered extraordinary.”
You’ve read it here before but it’s worth repeating: You can be comfortable or your can be outstanding. But you can’t be both.
You can grab another slice of pizza and watch. Or you can grab your helmet and get in the game.
Just be warned.
Powerful art is uncomfortable.
Excellence on the field or on the court is uncomfortable.
So is business.
So is parenting.
Notice I didn’t say great parenting. That won’t be apparent for another 10 or 15 years.