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March 13, 2014

Tim Kolodziej: Maybe it’s time to start saying yes to “no”




“Sorry, we’re not interested at this time.”

“You’re not quite what we were looking for.”

“You’re not my type.”



Does that word scare you?

Or does it fuel you?

Pick one. We can’t have it both ways.

“Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love you.” — Jennifer Aniston

You ever been rejected?

I have.

Dozens of times. Maybe even close to a hundred.

I guess that makes me a “Reject.”

Girls? Shot down. Dumped. Jilted.

Athletic teams? Been cut more than once.

Stage, TV and movie auditions? That, too. I was told I “have a face for radio and a speaking voice for newspapers.”

It can make a guy start to wonder.

Am I that awful to be around? Is my work that mediocre? Is my talent really lacking?

Depends on who you ask, I guess. But I prefer to view my skill set as so unique that only a few people actually “get it.”

I’m guessing yours is pretty unique, too.

You’re not for everybody.

Neither am I.

So let’s embrace it. Maybe that’s just the way it’s supposed to be.

“The simple truth is that anything great always comes with great rejection.”  — Jon Acuff

Ever heard of U2? Maybe you’re among the millions who have bought one of their recordings.

On his blog last week, Acuff posted a rejection letter Bono (whose real name is Paul Hewson) received from RSO Records in 1979. (I’ve shared the image to the right.)

We should all be grateful that Bono, The Edge, Larry Mullen Jr., and Adam Clayton refused to take “No” for their final answer. If they had, the world would have been denied of some of the greatest music of our generation.

Here’s what U2 knew. And here’s what we all must learn, too:

“No” is an opinion. If you remember nothing else from this blog, please tuck that away into your pocket or purse.

“No” is not a fact. It’s an opinion. A matter of taste and style.

Just like “Impossible.”

Perhaps you’re old enough to remember when it was “impossible” to run a four-minute mile.

Perhaps you’re old enough to remember when it was “impossible” to land astronauts on the moon.

Perhaps you’re old enough to remember when it was “impossible” to watch theatrical releases in the privacy of your living room.

Perhaps you’re old enough to remember when it was “impossible” to listen to music on your camera. Or take a photo on your phone. Or capture video on your music listening device.

Perhaps you’re old enough to remember when it was “impossible” for America to elect a black president.

Something is “Impossible” only until someone does it.

And “No” is meaningless. Unless, of course, we allow it to have meaning.

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