NEW CASTLE — Envy = I must be LIKE you to be happy. People Pleasing = I must be LIKED by you to be happy.
We’ve got to stop letting others define us.
We’ve got to stop worrying about our legacy and, instead, simply focus on the joy of the journey.
Let’s not do things for the applause of men. Let’s do them because we have a passion, a gift, and we’ve been created to be part of a much bigger story.
In other words, live present. Play present. Accept each moment that passes our way as a blessing from above.
Then leave it up to the guys at ESPN or the boys at the barbershop to define our legacy.
Really, should I be concerned that you will remember me as a good father? It doesn’t matter. If my son and daughter think so, that’s good enough for me.
Will you remember me as a good husband? If my wife thinks so, that’s good enough for me.
Will you remember me as someone who truly loved, cared and worked hard to make a difference?
Hmm. Walk around a room filled with 10 people and you’re likely to get 10 different answers.
But I’ve got three simple words for those 10 different responses.
I. Don’t. Care.
I’ll admit it. I used to care what you thought of me. Way, way too much, to be exact.
It’s taken me awhile, but I’ve finally learned that a synonym for the word legacy is simply “opinion.”
And opinions change. Daily. Dramatically.
And opinions are way too dependent on circumstances.
Therefore, another phrase for legacy could be, “what have you done for me lately?”
Did a decision of mine benefit you? Or did I make you angry? Did you hear about me on Fox News? Or on CNN? Did you deal with me before your first cup of coffee? Or after?
Be careful how you answer.
My legacy depends on it.