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January 17, 2013

Tim Kolodziej: What you see really is what you get

NEW CASTLE — Man, this story hit me like a Mack truck ...

Twin boys were raised by an alcoholic father. One grew up to be an alcoholic and when asked what happened, he said, “I watched my father.”

The other boy grew up and never touched a drink. When asked what happened, he replied, “I watched my father.”

Two boys. Same dad. Two different perspectives.

One brother’s a victim.

The other has taken ownership of his life.

That got me thinking: Which brother am I?

Am I living as a victim? Or am I living victoriously?

In other words, what do I see ...

•Setbacks ... or growth challenges in the work place.

•“Knucklehead” kids ... or a chance to influence a misguided life at youth group.

•That “idiot” barista at the coffee shop ... or someone who is struggling with some deep personal issues.

•The crazy dude who just took “my” parking space ... or the 27-year employee who was laid off an hour earlier.

•Basketball players who “just don’t get it” ... or a time to change my coaching methods.

•The elderly woman in the grocery line who writes a check and needs customer assistance ... or the devoted wife of 52 years who just lost her husband.

•The “good old days” in my rearview mirror ... or an exciting future in my windshield.

Problems.

Or opportunities.

Victim.

Or victorious.

What we see really does determine the direction of our lives.

And I see I’ve still got plenty of room to grow.



 



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