NEW CASTLE —
Kelly and her mother, Kathy, were having dinner and discussing other wedding topics when the thought of who should perform the ceremony came up.
The idea of picking a minister in North Carolina who didn’t know either bride or groom seemed unappealing. Jokingly, they threw out some names of family members and friends when the idea came to Kelly.
“We didn’t want dad to feel like he had to say yes if he didn’t feel comfortable about it.” Kelly said.
Kathy encouraged Kelly to ask Bill, believing her husband would be honored just to be asked.
She was right.
When it comes to multitasking, McNees has few peers. He’ll have even fewer after the upcoming nuptials.
It might not be the equivalent of coaching a basketball game while refereeing it, but it’s close.
“I’m an emotional guy and this is going to be every bit as nerve wracking as any basketball game,” he said
Bill does a lot of public and motivational speaking and he’s been “tinkering around” with what he will say at the ceremony.
“But this is a totally different animal.”
In just over a week, Bill will perform in dual roles of father of the bride and marriage officiant.
Perhaps he will walk her down the aisle before stepping forward and turning around. Or perhaps that duty will fall to Kathy or Kelly’s brother, Steve.
It could get interesting when Bill asks, “Who gives this woman to be wedded to this man?” and then answers his own question.
“We’re not sure how it will all work yet,” admits Kelly. “Some things haven’t been decided.”
But one thing she knows, “the ceremony is going to be so special and personal.”
Kelly said she and her father have always had a close relationship.
“He has been incredibly involved in everything I’ve done,” said Kelly, who followed her father unto the teaching profession. “I’ve always been a daddy’s girl.”
As for Bill and his sentiments about his daughter: “We’ve always had a strong relationship. I have great respect and admiration for her.”
Although some are referring to him the Rev. Bill McNees, the former coach seems certain this will be a one-time happening and not the start of a new profession.
“This may be the first time I’m hoping for one and done.”