NEW CASTLE — "Deal with the world the way it is, not the way you wish it was." — John Chambers
As a coach of young basketball players, I always pose a question when I hear them whining over an official’s call:
“Did the referee call it a foul?”
“Then it’s a foul. Get back into your stance and make a stop.”
It works the same if a player believes he got hammered on a drive to the hoop — yet the referee doesn’t blow the whistle.
“Did the referee call a foul?”
“Then it wasn’t a foul. Get back down the court and play defense.”
Now, that doesn’t mean I agree or disagree with the official.
It just means I try to see things as they are — not as I WANT them to be — and move on accordingly.
That’s the only positive response for a player, a coach or any of us to have.
Everything else is simply a negative reaction.
And as we’ve seen over and over through the years, those don’t go so well.
“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” — John 16:33
“This isn’t my day.”
The next time I hear you say that, you’ll get no argument from me.
I feel your pain.
It isn’t my day either.
That’s the bad news for both of us.
The good news: the way we bounce back from our circumstances IS OURS.
And we always have two choices — react or respond.
When my doctor says, “Tim, I see you’re responding to the medication,” that’s always a good thing.
When he says, “Tim, I see you’re reacting to the medication,” that’s not so good.
It never is.
And it never will be.
No matter how hard I try to make it that way.
Watch what happens when a baseball manager "reacts" to a call.