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Tim Kolodziej

May 9, 2013

Tim Kolodziej: You know, this isn't my day — and it's not yours either


NEW CASTLE — "Deal with the world the way it is, not the way you wish it was." — John Chambers

As a coach of young basketball players, I always pose a question when I hear them whining over an official’s call:

“Did the referee call it a foul?”

“Uh, yes.”

“Then it’s a foul. Get back into your stance and make a stop.”

It works the same if a player believes he got hammered on a drive to the hoop — yet the referee doesn’t blow the whistle.

“Did the referee call a foul?”

“Uh, no.”

“Then it wasn’t a foul. Get back down the court and play defense.”

Now, that doesn’t mean I agree or disagree with the official.

It just means I try to see things as they are — not as I WANT them to be — and move on accordingly.

That’s the only positive response for a player, a coach or any of us to have.

Everything else is simply a negative reaction.

And as we’ve seen over and over through the years, those don’t go so well.

“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”  — John 16:33

“This isn’t my day.”

The next time I hear you say that, you’ll get no argument from me.

I feel your pain.

It isn’t my day either.

That’s the bad news for both of us.

The good news: the way we bounce back from our circumstances IS OURS.

And we always have two choices — react or respond.

When my doctor says, “Tim, I see you’re responding to the medication,” that’s always a good thing.

When he says, “Tim, I see you’re reacting to the medication,” that’s not so good.

It never is.

And it never will be.

No matter how hard I try to make it that way.


Watch what happens when a baseball manager "reacts" to a call.

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