NEW CASTLE —
At least that’s what my calendar says.
Yet for most of us — if we’re really transparent — it’s “When’s-day.”
Just like every other day of the week.
•“When I finally finish this project.”
•“When I get paid.”
•“When the first of the month arrives.”
•“When this weather finally breaks.”
•“When I finish this last can of chew.”
•“When I finish this last pack of cigarettes.”
•“When she says she’s sorry.”
•“When I join the gym.”
•“When somebody likes my business idea.”
•“When the season is over.”
We said that last year.
“When we give to others, our hands scream to the world that God is our treasure. It’s insane to try and get rich now when you’ll own the world in a few short years.” — John Piper
I’ve got a confession to make. If I didn’t love Christ, I would not like people very much.
Sad, but true.
I just struggle with being let down, put down and disregarded.
Happens every day.
•The person who said they would call ... doesn’t.
•The person who said, “yes, I’ll be there” ... doesn’t show.
•The person who you enjoyed being around yesterday ... doesn’t even acknowledge your existence today.
•The person who won’t even make eye contact when you speak to them.
•The kids who roll their eyes or sigh when you speak to them.
•The person who lied to you yesterday.
•The person who doesn’t say thank you.
•The person who has every elaborate excuse ... but no evidence of production.
•The whiners, complainers, cussers and passive-aggressives are seemingly everywhere.
•The person who “promised” to meet the deadline ... and didn’t. Again.
•The person who calls only when they want something.
•The person who talks and talks and talks ... about themselves.
Is anyone feeling me on this?
It’s no secret. Human beings are a peculiar lot.
We’re not a very likeable bunch, when you think about it. We can be downright mean and nasty to each other — and that’s on our GOOD days.
I think there’s a very simple answer why: It’s always “When’s-day.”
I mean, if we can’t even commit to helping OURSELVES today, why should I be crazy enough to assume you would have MY best interests in any situation?
I’m not. And I won’t.
Doesn’t mean I won’t love you. Doesn’t mean I’ll judge you. It just means you need to show me I can trust you.
“When’s-day” has passed.
“Bravery is the solution to regret.” — Robin Sharma
But what if ...
Our limits are liars?
Our excuses are thiefs?
What if impossible is just an opinion?
What if our greatest partnerships and victories are just on the other side of our greatest fears?
What if bravery really is the solution to regret?
And what if we were to change our thinking? Not a lot. Just a little bit.
What if we stopped waiting for “When” and started focusing on “Now?”
Wow. I can’t even imagine the possibilities.
All right, let’s try anyway.
What if we all could realize that the joy comes in the doing, not the outcomes. Whether you choose to cooperate with me or not.
We sing because we can’t NOT sing — even if we don’t have a record contract.
We perform our roles at work because we can’t NOT perform them — even if few people notice.
We coach, and teach and lead and encourage — even when it feels as if no one is catching our vision.
Maybe that’s what bravery really is.
Maybe that really is the solution to regret.
Let’s just do and stop worrying about results.
“Think less about me, not less of me. Think more about God, and more about others.” — Joshua Medcalf
So, how do we that?
I mean, how do we love people in our various roles when every ounce of our being wants to strangle them at times?
Let’s call it the Embolden Rule.
Just do the opposite of what most people do to you.
•Return the phone call, even though others may not.
•Be consistent in your demeanor, even when others make theirs a guessing game.
•Let your “yes” mean “yes.”
•Better yet, show up on time.
•Speak truth and love when others are gossiping and demeaning.
•Sometimes don’t speak at all. Just listen. Really listen. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk again. Engage. Seek to understand. And truly LISTEN.
This list is scary, I know. We won’t have much company if we do those things.
And it’s very risky to commit when there’s nothing in it for us.
Or is there?
In God’s economy, true joy comes through giving. True blessing comes when we choose to bless others.
Fulfillment comes from getting lost in the process.
And that, my friends, is true success.
No matter what anyone else thinks. Or even cares to notice.
To borrow a phrase from the silly commercial that went viral: “Guess what today is?”
Time to get over the hump.
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