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Tim Kolodziej

July 4, 2013

Tim Kolodziej: There’s a Hero in our home movies — and it isn’t me

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NEW CASTLE — TRUST ME

After time spent watching someone, we have to make a decision — can they be trusted?

Now we enter the “Trust Me” stage. Perhaps you can relate to these questions.

•Will you catch me at the bottom of the slide?

•Is the roller-coaster really safe and fun?

•Is broccoli good for me? It sure is nasty.

•Will you be able to make it to my baseball game?

Then it extends from the home in many ways. We research potential companies to work for. We study up on the new car we want. We read the reviews before spending $10 on the blockbuster movie. We take a “wait and see” attitude with the new boss or our new coach.

But if we really want to be trusted, our children, our employees and our players need to know we value them for who they are, not for what they can do. It’s corny but it’s true: People need to know how much we care before they care how much we know.

In other words, there has to be some sort of a relationship before there can be trust.

Can I be trusted? Can you?

We’ll have to spend some time together to find out.

FOLLOW ME

And once a parent, coach or leader gains trust, there’s the hope that we’re worth following.

I call it the “Follow Me” stage.

The interactions can be superficial:

•“What did you order? That sounds good ... I think I’ll have the same.”

•“Where did you get those jeans? I’ll have to check out that store.”

•“Who did you get to fix your sink? Do you have their phone number?”

•“What diet did you say you’re on? Can you give me some recipes?”

Or they can have eternal consequences. In 1 Corinthians 11:1, Paul ramps it up big-time.

“Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.”

Ouch.

I try. Lord knows I try.

And I fail too often than I care to admit in a public forum.

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