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Tim Kolodziej

July 18, 2013

Tim Kolodziej: Are we ignoring our ‘best selves’ as we pursue success?


NEW CASTLE — “Good moms have sticky floors, dirty ovens and happy kids.”

A friend of mine posted that note on her daughter’s Facebook wall the other day.

So good. So true.

So unlike me and you.

Despite my best intentions to swim against the tide, I always seem to drift back toward the shores of “urgent.”

I need to keep reminding myself to focus, instead, on what’s “important.”

Better yet, on WHO is “important.”

Stay with me on this. What if all the “not nows” and “we’ll sees” and “a little laters” are REALLY why we are here?

What if all the “distractions” are the reality and the “urgents” are really just distractions?

This is the crucial question we all need to ask ourselves: Are we really brushing aside our “best selves” in order to chase a carrot we’ll likely never get to devour?

I think we already know the answer.

“My best friends always say, ‘Thank God for Facebook, because I know you’re alive.’ And this is slightly concerning. My best friends have to follow me on Facebook to know I’m alive?” — Courtney Boyd Myers

Do you know what the five biggest regrets are for those on their deathbeds?

•I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

•I wish I wouldn’t have worked so hard.

•I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

•I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

•I wish I had let myself be happier.

Hmm. Let me see if I’ve got those right ...

•Live truer to who I am created to be.

•Find ways to work smarter and not harder.

•Be more open with my feelings.

•Prioritize friendships even more.

•Enjoy the journey.

I usually don’t share my to-do list with just anyone.

But I just did.

(Tim Kolodziej is the executive editor at The News. To follow him on Twitter, CLICK HERE.)


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