New Castle News

January 14, 2014

Kali Davies-Anderson: A little wisdom for mothers-to-be

Kali Davies-Anderson
New Castle News

NEW CASTLE — It seems like every female I know is pregnant.

This is mostly because of Facebook and the plastering of ultrasound photos and baby shower details, but nonetheless it seems like very soon there will be lots of little babies making their entrance into the world.

Many of these women are going to be moms for the first time, and while part of me is a little bit envious, another part of me knows how big of an adjustment a newborn can be, especially for the first time around.

However, I was so anxious to meet my daughter that I probably did not enjoy the last few months of my pregnancy like I could have. The word “bored” was often slung from my mouth, and I spent many afternoons deciphering the number of months, weeks and days that would have to pass before my little one arrived.

Fast forward a year and a half.

Now pregnant with my second child, it was a whole new ballgame.

No more “boring” days, no more leisure time to count down the exact number of hours before my due date. I was sick for NINE months, yet had to function as though I felt wonderful. The smell of tater tots made me want to hurl, but I had to make them. The sound of my alarm clock in the morning was not that of a buzzing or chiming nature, but rather a yelling toddler, making her first demands of the day from her crib.

Time flew by, though, and before I knew it I was meeting my precious little baby and all of the hideousness of the past several months was gone from my mind.

Fast forward another nine months (wow, still cannot believe it!) and I am still adjusting to two babies.

My hair is rarely combed and I feel like I went to the spa if I get to condition it. I wear a variation of the same sweatpants and T-shirt every day and wear makeup so seldom that when I apply tinted Chapstick my husband thinks I am “dolled up.”

Most days I do not sit down to eat — sometimes I don’t even have time to eat. I haven’t gone to the bathroom alone in over a year and am usually falling asleep by 9 p.m.

These are all huge changes from when I was pregnant with my first daughter, and some days when I am feeling especially exhausted I wish I could go back in time and listen to all of the people who told me to enjoy my time before the baby arrived.

So, here is my advice to what seems like the millions of pregnant moms out there:

If you’re tired, take a nap. Nap as long as you want because it may never happen again.

Apply makeup just to walk around the house if that makes you happy. You’re going to be fairly “ugly” for the next three to five years.

Watch movies, read books and take walks. “Me” time is a commodity to be enjoyed.

If you have finished your nursery, spend some time just sitting in it in silence and enjoying the tidiness of it. In a few months it will look like a Babies R Us store that imploded on itself.

Find time to get together with friends and family for lunch or dinner — your food will be hot when you eat it. Savor this notion, it might be a while before it happens again.

Lastly, shut off your laptop, phone, television and radio. Spend some time looking at your growing belly and fantasizing about being a parent. Enjoy the end of your pregnancy. It feels like it will never end, but it will and your life will be changed forever.

Children are a blessing from God, but they are really hard work to take care of when they are on the outside.  Well worth it, but still hard work.